When I say I don’t care, please realize I’m not just quitting and giving up on my life. I’m writing this to remind myself to bury all notions and reinforcements of timelines, timetables, and deadlines relationship wise. Realistically, if it were up to me I would be married right now, but I can honestly say I don’t have all the answers and need more time to revel in my singleness. I had a great conversation with a friend of mine who reminded me to act like I don’t care. When you start making a man your priority when you are just getting to know him it makes him realize he has the upper hand. “He just sent me a text message and it would be rude of me not to respond,” I said. “Let him call you,” my friend replied. I took his advice and it worked. I realize now its important to create a full life for myself outside of dating.
I’ll admit I have a one track mind when I want something I go after it. When I’m determined I can develop tunnel vision, which in turn can become blurred because I’m so focused. I’ve taken a good hard like at my first dating behavior and acting like I don’t care would have definitely saved me from heartache or disappointment. Justing going with the flow is best. I have to realize not everyone moves at my pace and its okay to admit to a guy that this isn’t going to work out or I don’t see this going very far.
What dating don’ts have you been guilty of? Come on, admit if you have or had a so-called timeline.