- I’m loving my natural hair.
- Goapele’s Break of Down cd is on heavy rotation.
- Thanksgiving is coming soon and road trip here I come. 🙂
- The Roots are awesome live.
Did you miss me? Let me start off by saying this fall has been a roller coaster ride, but in a good way. Looking back I learned about a lot about myself.
- I need my space.
- You have to face your fears.
- Being single is a blessing.
- You don’t owe anybody an explanation.
- I love channeling my inner craft diva. (Being creative whether it be arts and crafts, poetry, or photography)
I realize I’m still a work in progress and I’m ok with that. I turned 29 a couple of months ago. I was excited about turning 29, but honestly I was in a funk. I thought I had to have x,y, and z crossed of my life list. Thank God none of it happened.
My life list went a little something like this: I was supposed to be married by age 28 and have my first child at age 30. I can honestly say I am in no shape or form ready to be a mommy, nor am I ready to be somebody’s wife. Somewhere along the way I forgot about the dating part and actually getting to know a guy I had some interest in.
I am enjoying being single and learning about myself as a single woman and what truly interests me. I am learning to be a better friend to my true friends and at the same time learning to let go of people with no regrets. I have been taking inventory of my past dating relationships and realized that I was doing too much. I remember a guy I dated saying back in 2009, “You’re nice, but I realize you would do anything for me.” At that time on paper in my mind I thought we were perfect, but I can honestly understand now what he was saying.
I struggle with self-acceptance, but day by day it’s getting easier. I realize I have my own life path and my story is mine to tell and can’t be compared to anyone else’s.
One another note remember when I said I wanted to be published well it’s in the works. God has been so good to me this year. He has allowed me to be a blessing to other people and brought people in my life to help me learn and grow.
Today I was blessed with the opportunity to help celebrate a retired professor’s 90th birthday. He took the time to reflect on his journey of growing up in Snow Hill, AL to eventually becoming renowned band director at an HBCU. His words of advice were simple, “make your own.” This statement means to forge your own path in life and help someone else in the process.
This statement confirmed to me that I am headed in the right direction personally and professionally. As of late, I have been struggling with whether or not I have become complacent at my job. I really enjoy my job, but I’m wondering if I’m giving it my all. One of my dreams has been to publish professionally in an academic journal. I have great ideas, but that’s all they are. Just ideas scribbled on a piece of paper.
This statement today confirmed the fact that I have to face my fears and just try.
So here’s to trying.
This is currently my favorite TV commercial. Every time I see it I get a good laugh.
Miss me? I took some time off to recharge and release. Concerning the lent challenge here is an update. I failed miserably when it came to giving up dessert. I was fine eating yogurt for a few days and then I fell off. #epic fail. I did really well with the Facebook part of my challenge. It helped me mentally. I realized I was using Facebook as crutch or distraction and now I’m proud to say I limit myself to checking my Facebook page once a day. I’ve also removed the alerts from phone to help me focus.
I finally joined the YMCA, but I’ve fallen off. I realize I enjoy Zumba and am praying to God to get through cardio aerobic class. So I’ve learned I have to mix up my exercise routine. I’m determined to get healthier and I realize it takes time. Adapting a healthier lifestyle is not achieved in one day.
Concerning the social challenge I’ve made strides. I’ve danced at a friend’s wedding, gone to the movies with a new friend, and saw Ledisi in concert. I’ve learned that I can have a great time just by myself and its fun just to be spontaneous.
Overall this challenge brought me closer to God and made me realize that I’m never alone. Furthermore, life is a journey and that I should enjoy ride.
If you celebrate Lent what did the last 40 days teach you?
Each year for Lent I attempt to give something up and usually end up failing. This year I have decided again to give up dessert (i.e. cake, pudding, etc) and Facebook. Mainly, I want to eat healthier and try not to eat out so much and also I really love dessert. If I see a Krispy Kreme I will pull over. Dessert is my favorite part of the meal.
Secondly, I am hoping this challenge will force me to be more social because, sometimes I have a habit of withdrawing into myself. Its day two and things are looking up. My social calendar for this weekend is already full.
I’m looking forward to these 40 days. I plan to use this time to reflect both spiritually, mentally, and socially and actually accomplish some goals I’ve set.
One of my New Year’s Resolutions was to be more social. So tonight, at the last-minute I went to a college basketball game. It was a lot of fun, but I found my mind wandering, thinking about a guy friend, thinking about my girlfriends, life, etc. I didn’t have my cellphone so I couldn’t browse the internet as a quick distraction. Watching the student walking in and out of the game made me realize there is such a thing as a shift in life where you move into another phase. (Especially, the college years versus the working world.)
I realized I wouldn’t want a do over of my college years because, I’m happy in the now and all that I went through in college was a life lesson. I’m a huge basketball fan but something was missing tonight. The game was awesome and action packed something but there was still a void. So I’ll fill the void with family, new friends, and countless adventures.
So in the meantime while I’m on this single journey. I plan to just continue to take risks and ride this wave of life.