I realize it has been two years since I’ve blogged. Honestly, I haven’t felt inspired. I didn’t want to keep writing about certain issues and goals I haven’t accomplished yet. For example, this past year I was determined to find another job. I created a vision board and placed a date on that vision board. I interviewed for several positions and made it into the second round of the interviews. In the end I got the standard form letter. I started taking things very personally. I felt like I wasn’t good enough.
I was frustrated both personally and professionally. I wasn’t dating much. The guy who later became my boyfriend went ghost around December. It hurts because I was open and honest with him and he just cut off all communication. Rejection hurts a lot. In my mind I always had this plan that I would get married when I was 30 years old and have my first child at 32. Well those years have passed and on to the future.
Presently, I’m trying to start 2016 off right. I bought a planner. (I’m secretly a stationary addict). There was a quote on a recent episode of “Being Mary Jane” that I have been focusing on.
“You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.”
I’m taking it day by day and so far so good. I’m learning to be grateful and try to find the lesson in each experience. I’m currently reading Valerie Burton’s book “Happy Women Live Better”. One of the tips is to have something to look foward to each day. This has helped make each day easier. For me it could be as simple as meeting a friend for luch or going to the gym.
Right now I’m reflecting on 2015 both the good and the bad so I can start 2016 with more clarity.
I haven’t really had much to blog about. This past summer I just took some time for myself and had to re-evaluate some things. I recently got a new phone and was playing around with camera.
I recently went to a concert featuring Mack Wilds and Melanie Fiona. It was a lot of fun. Both artists were very friendly and personable. Melanie even wished an audience member Happy Birthday. Here are some pictures.
I forgot how much I enjoyed taking pictures. From time to time I’ll plus some of my random photos.
I confess I’ve been a bad blogger for not posting, but I’ve been busy in a good way. Let me rewind things for a bit.
In August 2012 I had the opportunity to learn how to surf. This was an early birthday gift to myself. What I learned most from surfing is that when life knocks you done you get back up. It was so much fun and I can’t wait to do it again.
In October 2012 I got finally had my international adventure. One of my best friends from college and I went on a cruise to the Bahamas. Now mind you have been talking about taking a cruise for the last four years. Let me say it was wonderful. I didn’t want to get off the ship. It was great to see a different culture and try new foods.
Change is good. I have learned so much about myself personally and professionally, that change is a great thing. I had the opporunity to participate in a leadership program and it forced me to take a hard look at myself. “To whom much is given, much is required.
On another note I want to wish all of my readers a Happy New Year and here’s to 2013. Thank you for taking the time to read my little blog it means alot.
This morning I read the following article from The Washington Post entitled, The Single Life. (The article links to the complete article featured in the Post magazine.) I was reading some of the comments of the respondents and the overwhelming theme was that you can still live a full life and don’t pity them. There is nothing wrong with being single and not being married.
I’ve talked to my mom and great length about her life before she got married at 28. She told me that when she graduated from college she was focused on living her life and marriage was her least concern.
In the past I used to get frustrated when people ask me why I was not married or have kids as if I was an oddity. I now realize why people say just to let life happen. God knows the desire of your hearts and all things happen in his perfect timing. I’m excited about this single life. I’m traveling to Atlanta for work this week, but I definitely plan to throw some fun into it.
Yesterday, my sister called to tell me Whitney Houston had passed away. Immediately, I thought it was Twitter hoax. “It’s been reported by the Associated Press,” she said. Then my dad called to ask me if I had heard the news. Again, I thought it was a sick joke. I went to the Associated Press’ website and read the story confirmed by Houston’s publicist. The first thoughts I had were, she was so young, how her daughter must be feeling, and how she had just filmed the movie Sparkle. She looked great. I had just seen photos of her on a gossip blog.
I don’t have one particular memory. I just know Whitney Houston’s music has been a constant in my life. I remember just her music playing on the radio. I remember last year in the car on the way back from my grandfather’s funeral Houston’s “I Didn’t Know My Own Strength” playing on the cd player and my mother singing her heart out. That particular song has so much meaning for me personally and you can tell in Houston’s voice that she too wants you realize that your stronger than you think and are resilient.
Whitney Houston RIP. You will live on through your music. Thank you.
Wow, 2012 will be coming in a couple of days. I cannot believe its been a year since I started this blog. I would like to start by saying thank you to everyone that has stopped by and read a post on this blog. Writing this blog has been very therapeutic and in the process I learned a lot about myself.
1. Going natural was the best decision I ever made.
2. It’s important to make your health a priority.
3. I love country line dancing and Zumba. Basically any form of exercise where I’m moving.
4. Balance is key. It’s important to make time for fun and not just work all the time.
5. It okay to say no.
6. Communication is key. Its better to talk things out, then to just assume or leave issues unresolved.
7. Spiritual growth was very important in that I realized it was important for me to work on my personal relationship first with God.
8. Learn to let go.
This year I can honestly say I was able to let go of people, toxic relationships, and negative baggage.
Overall, I learned that I’m more fearless than I thought and that life is to be lived plan or no plan.
I recently found out that I have some health issues. Aside from low vitamin B levels, I learned that I need to change my diet completely. This means no fried foods and more fruits, veggies, and fish and chicken. My regular readers know that I struggle with motivating myself to cook. I am taking this as a challenge to reevaluate my relationship with food.
I feel like this is the swift kick in my ass to get healthier. Mentally I’ve said how I would love to lose 30 pounds and finally take those surf lessons I’ve been dreaming about. That’s the problem all I’ve been doing is talking about it. I can’t complete the act without taking some type of action.
I admit that I have been some what in a slump from time to time this year and turned to food for comfort.
Looking in the mirror I knew I was overweight. I would get winded going up steps, but I kept telling myself you don’t look overweight. I’m 4 feet 9 inches and weigh 143 lbs.
In a nutshell it’s not too late to turn it around. I’m determined, I have faith, and I have family support.